And We Wait…


Our foster care class ended the day before we left for FL. All our visits were done, fingerprints taken and the piles of paperwork finished. We flew out the next day and I was emotionally ready. Ready to start the foster care journey as soon as we got back. It all felt like the right timing. Class end, family time happened and we came back refreshed and ready for our placement. Well, here we are almost 5 weeks after we’ve gotten back from FL and no word yet from our case worker. I know families who adopt (especially internationally) wait such long times and I am in no way saying I have waited a long time because I haven’t. But. I am realizing rather quickly that nothing in this process really goes according to your plans. It’s a system that needs families to rise up and help. Yet is so understaffed and busy trying to find homes for the children that need to be placed right now, they can’t find the time to finish certifying the new families. It feels like we are in this weird limbo stage. When we were in our weekly class it felt real, like we were working towards something. Now we just sit, and wait, and wonder when that phone call will come. I have to actively be in prayer over all of it because the waiting let’s the fear creep in. The questions build up with all the what ifs that could happen. So many scenarios, so many children, so many opportunities to help these families. But it can feel scary and overwhelming to me at night when I am alone with my thoughts. I know with out a doubt this is what we are supposed to be doing, but this stage of unknowns is very hard. If you can remember back to my Hillsong post last year. I wrote how going to that concert really changed a lot for me. And since than, the Zion cd has been one of my favorites. Especially the acoustic version! I’ve heard a lot of worship songs in my life and have really been moved by many of them but honestly, I can not even begin to express the power the song Oceans has on me. It literally makes me weep. The words. Oh the words. They just run deep into my soul. My most favorite lines are…

“Your grace abounds in deepest waters
Your sovereign hand
Will be my guide
Where feet may fail and fear surrounds me
You’ve never failed and You won’t start now
Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders
Let me walk upon the waters
Wherever You would call me
Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander
And my faith will be made stronger
In the presence of my Savior”

I feel like I am living this song right now and it’s scary and wonderful and oh so beautiful. But oh man, it’s a leap of faith.

Our dear sweet friends had their adoption finalization court date last thursday. It was just the sweetest day to celebrate. We were honored to be in the court room with them as their son was declared theirs forever. Sitting there in the back row listening to the judge, it was hard not to picture ourselves down the line. Of course with foster care we want the families to succeed first so it is different. However, if that isn’t the case, I know one day we will find ourselves in that same situation. My heart was filled with so much emotion watching Danielle and Caleb love on Abram that day. We will love each and every child that comes into our lives like they will be with us forever, but I know I have to keep praying and trusting that if/when a child goes home that it really is the best for them. It will be an honor for me to be their mama for however long they are with us.

Untitled^^ at the court house

Untitled^^ The kiddos celebrating at lunch (minus Story)

* Side note: Rowan still trying to understand all of it asks “are we going to take care of their baby?” every time one of our friends give birth (and there actually has been a few births lately). Every time I have to explain that no, it’s not this baby but it will be another baby hopefully very soon.

  1. What if it’s not a baby? I mean, what if it’s an older child? Are your girls prepared to be around a pre-teen or teen boy or girl? This is a very selfless and loving thing you’re doing. It’s quite a journey. Congratulations on completing your classes!

  2. very cool! good luck on this journey! such a beautiful thing you are doing.

  3. What a wonderful thing you are doing!
    How great to share a little of Gods love with se sweet babies in your home. I can’t imagine the wrench of letting them go if they go back to their families.
    Here’s hoping you get to start your adventure soon!

  4. Bianca •

    You should check out Fosterhood in NYC blog. It really shows the journey into foster care and eventually to adoption.

  5. Cheryl •

    Man, I got chills reading about your feelings about Oceans. I feel the same way about that song. From the very first time I heard it I have felt it impact my life. It is also a song that my 5 year old loves, and it is most often the song that he chooses me to sing to him at bed time. What an adventure you and your family are about to embark on.

  6. You are right, nothing about foster care ever goes the way you plan. We just found out that our precious, lovable two year old foster daughter, our first placement who’s been with us barely a month, is being moved next week to another home so she can be with her siblings. We knew they were ‘technically’ still looking for a home for the whole set after splitting them up, but the odds of finding a home like that seemed so low, and they placed her with us because she needed to be in an adoption-motivated home. I had no idea how attached to her I am until I got that call and started sobbing. But we love her, and we must believe that it will really be best for her to be with her siblings. It’s just really hard breaking up our little family-for-now. But this is what we signed up for, right? I’m so thrilled for your family and this walking by faith you’re doing. It’ll be hard, but it’ll be blessed, too.

  7. I’m terrible at waiting too. I’m sure the call will come when it’s the right time for your family.

  8. Seriously-_I’m so excited for you I feel like WE are waiting for the baby too! 🙂
    And Dave and I have had a few more adoption talks lately…I’ll definitely be following closely with your process!

  9. Whitney •

    Such a lovely post 😉 My family is in the early stage of becoming certified for respite foster care. I knew God was calling us to open our home and, if I’m honest, I asked if he would change His mind. I love seeing where y’all are in the process…..even if the waiting makes you a bit anxious. I continue to lean heavy into the Lord and pray for His wisdom & guidance…..I’ll do the same for your family. One more thing……if you like Hillsong, you will love Kings Kaleidescope 🙂 ( they came out of my home church and are crazy talented….enjoy!)

Leave a Comment

Hi, I'm Jen!

Welcome to my personal lifestyle blog. It features topics such as motherhood, family life, fashion, cooking, and all sorts of adventures. I hope you enjoy what you find!

Jen Loves Kev