If there is one thing I hate writing about on this blog it’s posts about the downfalls of blogging. We all know them. We’ve all read hundreds of posts about peoples thoughts on them. I just don’t like focusing on such a negative topic. For me what I struggle with has changed over the years, what use to bother me doesn’t so much anymore. There will always be haters. That is just life. People can criticize, I am ok with that. I will never get how someone who doesn’t know us at all can make such outlandish judgements but that is besides the point. I have moved on. To each there own… You will never make everyone happy.
Over the past year I have changed my perspective on blogging a lot. I dropped all sponsored ads, almost all sponsored posts and my least favorite of all… giveaways. I stopped looking at any stat tracker I had because well it didn’t really matter anymore. Every since Rowan was born I’ve felt like I’ve been stuck in this limbo of fashion and mom blogger. Not really sure where I belonged. I built up a lot of fear and stress inside over finding the balance between the two. Not wanting to tip the scale to far to one side. Over the past few months this has been weighing heavily on me for some reason. I started doubting all kinds of stuff, feeling like because I am not straight one thing or the other I get looked over for a lot of stuff. Again, not sure why I even care but just being honest.
I am a big huge perfectionist. I will not put up a post unless I am 100% happy with it. I don’t like half-assing anything. As Rowan is getting bigger, needing more and more attention and a very close watchful eye, I find that I don’t have the time to create posts to the high standard that I like. I see bloggers who I love, love, love creating such amazing content and realize I don’t have the time to create posts like that anymore. Sometimes sure, but on a daily basis no. That is hard for me to swallow. It is not a jealousy thing or a competition thing, it is a personal realization over my own time and blog. It’s a weird cycle. I have so many ideas, but because I don’t have the time to do them the way I want, I lose all motivation to do it at all. I know my blog posts have been few and far between lately and this is why. If I can’t do it right, it makes me not want to do it at all. I don’t have time to take outfit photos with Rowan running around everywhere. She gets into everything and I don’t have nanny’s or babysitters to help, so there are no elaborate craft projects laid out all over my living room. What I do have time for most days are posting pictures of what we do day to day. It’s easy. It takes little time, but I am plagued wondering if readers will get bored of that? I know this is a stage and it will pass. Soon enough Rowan will be able to entertain herself more, will listen to direction better and maybe, just maybe I will be able to leave my sewing machine out without finding the thread unraveled all over the floor. For now though, things like that aren’t possible. In all honesty I have thought about giving up blogging more in the last 4 months than I have in the past 4 years.
I struggle to find the balance between real life with Rowan and having time to create something I am truly happy with for my blog. When I think of my blog I have such high goals for it, but slowly I am wondering if those goals are holding my back from really making it something special. I want it to be a casual place, a place that is fun, light hearted and truthful. I want it to be more.
I am just not sure what more is yet?
I don’t have any answers yet for this rambling post, just thought maybe if I got it off my chest I could move on, move forward. Whatever the answer is, my first and most importabt priority is always Kev and Rowan. They will aways be more important to me than this blog. I am curious though, how do you deal with losing motivation? How do you handle the time management of blogging/and/or life? I know most of us work full time, are stay at home moms or even both. I would love to hear how you handle finding time for it all…
xoxo
p.s. these pictures don’t really have to do with anything. Just liked looking back over a teeny tiny (well she was never that tiny) Rowan.
Hey Jen! Wow, what a great post. I love how you shared your heart, your struggles, just where you are. I’m a new blogger (would love for you to check out my blog above) and am going through a ton of transition. Just started blogging about closet organization and style (my two passions), mother of two with one coming in October, working a full time corporate job but getting promoted to Stay At Home Mom after Baby 3 comes….It’s a lot. Children are overwhelming/wonderful/hardest thing I’ve ever done/a complete joy. I remember when I started my blog reading another blogger who advised to blog about what you love. You love Rowan 🙂 You love being a Mom. You love fashion. You love living and sharing that life. I’ve enjoyed “getting to know you” a little from your blog. I hope you’ll continue. No magic answers on how to stay motivated other than to keep it simple and write about what you love (which may change day to day).
Thanks for sharing! Be encouraged!
Lauren
boy do I understand you 100%. I struggle with my blog daily (I’m that one that looks at the stats, tries to blog once a day) . . . all for what . . . a few more followers?
I work full time, I am a mom full time and I struggle to get blogs out. Most the time they are just pictures with some daily thoughts here and there. To be honest, I do 90% of my blogs on down time at work (I’m a great multi-tasker). There is no way when I get home, after cooking, cleaning, taking care of and playing with my toddler, bath time and bedtime that I want to sit in front of the computer and blog!
If I feel I want to get a blog out without using the computer I turn to my iPhone (Blogger+ app). But like I said, I mostly blog from work. But if I have nothing to blog about, or no pictures to share, I am known to take a week off from time to time. I really only started the blog for family and friends. So they can keep up with my family! But having others read it has been very rewarding to!
I hope you figure out what works best for you! I say take a break if you want. Your followers will still be here when you get back!
PS. super cute pictures!
I often feel that struggle myself, juggling blogging with working, having a kid and also having to do mundane things like the laundry or making dinner. It can get overwhelming but I figure I’ll do what I can and that’s all. Whatever works for me that day is what gets done. Even if it’s one post and no dinner. Or laundry and no blogging… And those who love and read your blog will continue to do so regardless! I think…
What a refreshing post, Jen. I’m sure it felt anything but – but Im confident a lot of blogger moms feel the same way you do.
On the many, many days I can’t get out of the house with my kids (my oldest is Rowan’s age so I love reading about her!) it is really nice to find solidarity in the sometimes mundane and monotonous (not always! Obviously) on the Internet. At my stage in life I’m drawn more toward blogs like yours vs. those that make me feel like I’m missing something.
Keep up the good work and the picture posting! I’m know I’m not alone when I say I love your blog!!
I think it’s very brave of you to be so honest, but it’s important to be honest with yourself.
And I have to say that I enjoy reading your posts and I rather read few but well written posts with beautiful photos like you post them, than mass produced posts 🙂
I think every blogger struggles with finding their place when major life changes happen. Sometimes it feels like your sacrificing one love for another but in reality your not. You just need to find the balance your comfortable with and go with the flow. No one can tell you how to do things.
btw, I love your blog and I have been reading since before Rowan and your still (if not more so) awesome.
I started reading your blog a few years ago (3 maybe?). I read it as a fashion blog – and it seems like 80% of what I read then was fashion/style blogs. Since that time, I have had my own baby (he is 20 months old now), started and maintained my own “lifestyle” blog, and I still enjoy your blog. You’re being real and I think that is worth a lot. I will keep reading your blog no matter which direction you go, even if that direction ends up not blogging at all. I would hate that, but I sure do understand it seeing as how I am chasing my own toddler around, who is my whole world, like I know Rowan is to you. There isn’t much of a point to this comment, but hopefully it’s a small token of encouragement to you if nothing else. Keep being real, I have never had any complaints about your content.
Jen, yours is the one blog I haven’t gotten tired of in about 4 years 🙂 I understand your feelings here… I’ve felt that a lot with work and relationships and life in general the past year and it is a weird, paralyzing feeling to just be so hungry to do something meaningful that feels “like you”. But God’s got good plans for you and your family, lady. Keep being you and sharing your beautiful perspective on life. I love your short posts and long posts, one photo, or a long blog on your thoughts… because you’re honest!
Praying God connects you with an awesome babysitter who makes you feel so comfortable and at peace when you leave Rowan with her 🙂
You’re awesome, Jen! Thanks for blogging and sharing your life with all of us (in a virtual… bloggy kind of way) over the past few years!
Jen, I totally feel you, and I’m not even a mom. It couldn’t have happened at a more awkward time, but right after my redesign launched in early May, I got really busy with life & work, and my blog has suffered for it. The thing that I’m learning is that it is my space to be who I really am as a writer, blogger, artist, & creative person. Any pressure to be “more”, “better” and “successful” comes from me because of what I see others saying is the “right” way to blog. And when I buy into that pressure and try to make my blog “perfect” it NEVERRRR works – no one comments, no one reacts, and it’s because I’ve lost my authenticity.
For the record, I love seeing all of what you do – the dinner posts, the craft posts, the parenting posts, the style posts, and these posts where you talk openly about your struggles. This is what differentiates you from other bloggers – you don’t pretend you have this fab, perfect life that makes me feel inferior. I can name several bigger bloggers that I’ve stopped following because their tone in their posts make me feel like I’m not good enough. Maybe that’s not their intention, but when all we see is happy/shiny, it can be depressing to turn and look at our own lives. For my own mental/emotional health, I had to stop looking because it was an inevitable game of comparison.
So just be you. If you want to keep blogging and doing creative posts, figure out how you can parse them out into smaller segments. It’s the only way I can actually do blogging – keeping it to 500 words or less, one little idea to touch on and talk about, a few times a week and not every day.
Take gentle care. Much love, B. <3
Hi Jen! I have been reading your blog for 3+ years. I look forward to it on my coffee breaks at work, and I have loved seeing how you, Kev and adorable Rowan have grown. This sounds creepy, but since I “know you” through your blog, I would be a sad panda if you stopped – it’s like losing my daily coffee break friend!
Your readers who love you won’t be upset if you cut back on posts until you have more time. I love seeing your cool skirts, cool glasses, and seriously every picture of Rowan’s little cheeks (she is a DOLL) no matter when they are posted. You are da bomb.
I have always loved your blog because I relate to you. What really drew me in was that you were/are a regular woman doing creative and fun things. I loved that you were a teacher, and you inspired me to wear what I want to wear to school (as long as it fits into the dress code). I loved that when you had Rowan, you shared with us things you learned, things you weren’t sure about, and most of all, things you were trying to do. It gave me comfort because I know when I’m a mom, I won’t be perfect either, but I’ll try my darn best and do it in my own way. Your love for Rowan (and Kev) shines in your posts.
Whenever I feel uninspired or bored, I take a break from the blog. It might be for a few hours, a day, or a series of days. I’ll go and doodle on paper, wander through the thrift store, spy on my neighbors, or just lay on the sofa doing nothing. Creative people need breaks, too. I don’t think our creativity ever runs out– only our energy (and time) does.
Whatever you want your blog to be, only you know. But I promise I’ll stick around to find out.
Blogging can be so frustrating for sure. I feel like I want mine to translate my passions better as well, but my most main focus and 90% of my time go to filmmaking and my marriage. I try to never forget that at the end of the day, I do it for me. If I like my blog, that’s all that should matter. Blogging is very competitive and I think we just have keep it into perspective and make things happen the way we want them to. I don’t do outfit posts anymore and don’t have 25 000 readers a day and yet I work with brands that like my content and want to be a part of my life and blog. I just approach them in a more creative way, with new ideas on how to collaborate. We are all unique in a way and have to play that note.
Honestly, yours is one of the very first blogs I have ever read and one of the only I never got tired of. Because I’m inspired by your family and I like your content. And I think you should be easier on yourself and take a moment to be super proud of all you have done wit your blog in the past years.
We love you and think you are awesome always Jen!
Virginie xo
I love your cross between fashion, mom, and lifestyle – you have sorta created your own little umbrella to fall under. I think that’s way better then falling into a niche, creating your own. Your posts are always so so well done, and I totally agree with the : if you don’t live a post 100% you won’t post it. But I do think your hard on yourself, I’m pretty sure your 50% is still amazing, you are so talented and full of ideas.
Maybe you should create a few features that aren’t as time consuming and sprinkle in the bigger time consuming ones when you have time. Outfit
Posts I can see being super hard, what about Mom and Me
Outfit posts? Much more casual and pretty different. I love everything you write and do and love how you write, so go with the flow whatever feels right! xo!
I love your blog and the Rowan posts! Your family is beautiful. Thank you for being honest. I struggle with just being a mom and fitting everything in.
Jen! I don’t remember how I found your blog or how long ago (it wasn’t more than a year, though, I’m sure), but I found your archives and started reading from the beginning.
My favorite posts of yours are some of those early ones, short snippets of daily life with a picture or two. No links, no ads, just real life moments you wanted to share with the world. That’s what I see my blog as, sort of an online journal.
At the end of the day, it’s for you and no one else. If they like it, good. If they don’t, who cares?
Please don’t stop blogging. Every new post is a highlight.
Well, I wish I was full of awesome advice, but as a newbie blogger I’m still trying to figure how to do the whole blogging juggle.
All I really know is that blogging evolves and changes with you. Maybe one day its a career, the next a creative outlet and the next a place to tuck away a precious family memory. It. is. yours.
It is totally fine to take a break from blogging. The beauty of it is that your blog will be waiting for you if and when you decide to go back. Now don’t get me wrong, you will be greatly missed and I’d love it if you decided to do continue with occasional posts and family updates, but, of course the choice is yours. 🙂
Jen, one thing that drew me to you and is the main reason why I keep coming back and reading your blog is your honesty and openness with your readers. I thought it was so great a while back when you said you were going to stop sponsored ads and giveaways, one thing I can’t stand is bloggers who are only about upping their followers and using giveaways to encourage people to follow them, it’s so cheap. I understand for some people blogging is a full time job but for me, working part time and feeling lost and uncreative I started my blog as a hobby and an emotional and creative outlet and that’s what I always want it to be. I feel sad when I see people putting out daily posts with little substance just because they feel they have to. I admit I felt under pressure to put out a certain number of posts a week, but soon learned I couldn’t keep up and I wasn’t staying true to myself which has always been my number one must with my blog. That is what I love about you Jen, you have stayed true to who you are and I enjoy your posts about your family and motherhood as much as your style posts which is why I started reading in the first place. In my opinion you need to concentrate on your everyday life and let blogging become something you look forward to, take your time and only do it when you have the time and want to do it, otherwise you will get tired of it and resent it even. It doesn’t matter how often you post, what matters is you stay true to yourself and your interests instead of thinking “I have to get a post up today”. I know that your readers will keep reading no matter how often you post.
I totally agree with Bethany above, you are honest and it saddens me to say it but being honest about your bad times is much better than constantly presenting a “perfect” life, I feel like I can’t relate to so many bloggers that I used to read and it’s so important for me to be able to relate to what I’m reading (even though I don’t have children). I hope whatever you decide you know you are appreciated by your readers and we will support you no matter what!
That’s just my take on it!
Emma x
That last picture is so precious!
I work full time, so it’s definitely a struggle to find a balance between blogging needs and life. When I found myself struggling with that, I realized that it’s not important to post every day – just on a regular basis. So I committed to blogging twice a week – my weekly “Monday Music Break”, and one other post about whatever I felt like. Anything more than that is a bonus. And if I can’t fulfill that commitment one week, I am sad because I feel like I let my readers down, but I refuse to punish myself because real life must come before internet life.
Blessings!
~Colleen
I found your blog in my first months of motherhood. My daughter is almost 20 months old now so right around the same age as Rowan. Your posts are reassuring and inspirational for me. I love seeing the mix of mothering posts with fashion. I don’t think we have to be all mother, other passions keep us balanced and thriving and I think your blog exemplifies that. You’re talented at mothering, crafting, cooking, and styling and you share all of that on your blog; which I love. I have always appreciated your honesty about parenting. So many of the blogs that I read have this feeling of life being so perfect. Meals are created nightly from scratch, children always dressed to the nines, homes that are mess-free and styled perfectly, etc. I end up feeling so inferior to some of these moms. I LOVE your parenting ups and downs posts and just laugh at the similarities between your little one and mine. For stay-at-home-moms (as I am) blogs can be sort of like companions during the sometimes long and mundane days and I love popping over to your blog to read about another mom doing life with a little toddler. Thanks for sharing, Jen.
Jen,
I agree with ^ all of these people ^. I’ve been reading your blog for 3+ years, and your new (beautiful) phase of life won’t stop me. 🙂
Stay encouraged!
Jess
I use the blogger app on my phone to quickly post pictures and updates. I started my blog for me, my daughter, and my family far away.
It’s your blog. Don’t feel like you need to please everyone.
I would love to see day to day pictures! I feel like those are the most real and the best!
Keep on keeping on.
You are the first writer that has helped me to understand what it is like to go from being an art teacher/wife to wife/mom. All my friends with new babies have never been able to/ never had time to explain it to me. Your blog helps me understand what they may be going through. Thanks for making time to share your parenting ups and downs and fun life with your readers. Hope you’ll always have time for expressing your creative life/thoughts/fashion in the way that’s best for you and your family, with or without a blog. All the best, and God will show you what to do!
hey jen!
I understand where you are coming from, especially the part where you feel like your life isn’t interesting enough to just post pictures of, and have people want to come back and read about. i get nervous too that maybe my life is just any other life and .. why would people care to see it? but you know what motivates me…? All of the other bloggers who JUST blog about their life and their clothes and whose blogs i love to read (like yours!) Your life is relatable, and you are a fantastic writer! We come and read your blog because we like you as a person and we like that you’re just like the rest of us. It’s okay to just show us your days with Kev & Rowan, that is better than some made up DIY that you just thought up to keep us entertained because most people DON’T have time to re-create them anyway! I know i have wanted to bake blueberry muffins all month but just could not find the time. Just keep going, and i am sure you will get a huge surge of inspiration.
Xo,
Steffy
I think if your blog is to document memories and fashion and day to day life then you have to do what makes you happy. I have a blog but just mostly do it for myself to capture memories in a more modern way than just photo albums or scrap-booking (who has time for that!). I think your blog is lovely and if you get negative comments just consider the source. I know just post pics from my iphone from time to time so I can just know that a memory has been shared and I can let friends and family know that it is there or they can go look when they feel free. 🙂
Jen I’ve been reading your blog since 2009 and I love how it’s evolved. I’m not a mom but I am a married mid-20-something looking to be one someday. I love how you have shared your life as a young married teacher to a more mature mother. Think of your blog as a story of your life and us readers are reading the different chapters or years. I personally don’t care what your blog is classified as; lifestyle, fashion, motherhood- who cares?! You are just Jen and you shouldnt limit yourself. There should be a “free for all” category, or “smorgasbord”. Your blog is great that is why it’s stood the test of time and been so successful. I am not a blogger only an avid blog reader and let me tell you, I like your blog better with out sponsored, cluttered posts; this let’s your readers focus on more original content not forced stuff. I hope you feel better and remember, loyal readers are happy if you are happy.
I’ve been there, sister. And even though my blog is not as big as yours, I have felt what you’re feeling. I decided a few months ago to write only when I wanted to and only about what I wanted to write about. It has been freeing. No more swap sponsors or giveaways or other time sucks. When I get online to write, it’s because I want to, not because I feel like I have to. I have enough obligations in real life. I didn’t want my blog to become another obligation, you know?
Dear Jen,
I am not a blogger, and I am not a mother. I’m a 20-something, single girl working in the corporate world. I love fashion and home decor and vegetarian cooking. That’s what drew me to your blog in the first place, many years ago. And as you made the transition from blogger + wife to wife + mother, I never once lost interest or read less. In fact, your continual honesty and varied posts enamor me and keep me coming back for more!
Of course, if you decide to stop blogging, we would all understand. But I hope you do not feel pressure from us, your readers, to post certain things or convey an “image” that isn’t realistic. We love you (and Jen Loves Kev) because of your honesty, your realism, and your positivity towards all things LIFE and LOVE.
Whatever you decide, we will support you. I hope you know that!
God bless. xoxoxo
Hi Jen,
I so appreciate your post! Like you, I lose motivation and question my blog/blogging, though for different reasons than you. Similarly, though, I’m stuck in between two “kinds” of blogs, and fit into neither. It can be so frustrating, even though I try to use it as my “niche.” Reading your post has helped me come to terms with that a bit more, especially insofar as I now know I’m not the only one who has questioned my blog/blogging/my ideas/my ability to blog/my posts … all of that!
Anyway, although I’m not where you’re at in terms of life stages, I do get that you’re busy with your toddler and can’t post the way you used to or what not. But I can say that I read your blog every day and would never ever judge what you’re doing, or not doing, because I like your blog and you no matter what! That may sound cheesy, but it’s just so true! I’m totally a perfectionist, too, and so I also get that posting is more difficult for you (as it is for me) as a result. I would never hold that against you. 🙂
Needless to say, thank you for sharing that and for inspiring me, as always! I hope you’re able to feel at ease or comes to terms with with blogging, and know that I’m a fan no matter what!
xo Caroline
http://thefeministajournals.blogspot.ca/
Hi Jen,
What I like most about your blog is that you’re so easily relatable to, as a Mom. You are like someone I could be friends with or already know. You don’t put on any airs, but if you feel that what you come up with on the blog isn’t “good enough”, maybe you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself. It’s your blog, you can make it whatever you want. More Mommy or Fashion oriented doesn’t matter because it’s yours to do with what you want. I really enjoy it no matter what the topic. But maybe lately you’re feeling differently about the blog because things in your life are changing a lot. Buying a house again, vacations, etc… that’s a lot of stress on anyone– especially someone with a toddler. Don’t feel bad about how you are feeling. With time you’ll either see clearly what you are meant to do or the feelings will just pass. Either way, you are an inspiration to me as a Mom and a woman. :o) Thank you!
Please don’t stop blogging. I love your posts, always.
Striking the balance is so hard. Some days I am so tired I post something with a few images and a sentence or two, and then I feel this horrible guilt over not putting forth more effort. We are all our own worst enemies. You have to do what feels good for you and your family!
♡ Lexi
FASHION: Glitter & Pearls
WEDDINGS: Glitter Weddings
Jen, I can relate to this post too much not to comment. Like one of the readers above, I am not a mom, but I work a busy job full time and can’t blog from work. Therefore I’m stuck trying to squeeze it in between all the other ‘life’ things that we know can get in the way : ) I am also the type of person that either wants to do something to perfection or not do it at all — very all or nothing — sometimes I forget a middle ground even exists. I do want to tell you that I’m so glad you wrote this post – I also struggle talking about the blogger downfalls because I feel like such a pessimist! But honestly, this is refreshing to read. You’re on the right track in my opinion — blog about what you genuinely care about. This way readers know you’re being authentic. If you need to take a few days, a week, a month off, do it. We all know what it’s like to be overwhelmed, and I believe you have a solid readership that will follow no matter what. I seriously scratch my head when I see bloggers that have the time to dedicate to such amazingly planned and thought-out posts every day. It really makes me question whether I have what it takes to publish a worthwhile blog, but then I try to remember that I should blog for myself, not everyone else. Take care!
Hi Jen 🙂
I started reading your blog a few years ago when you were still a teacher and pregnant with Rowan.
I think I started reading because there was such a range of posts on your blog and I really loved reading about a wholesome person who loved her family most of all.
I still think you’re that same person and this blog still reflects that.
And now I have my own daughter (she was due on rowans first bday) and have enjoyed reading about your journey of motherhood as it is a little ahead of my own 🙂
Good luck finding that balance xxx
From Sophie in NZ
I love reading all of your posts. I find your blog to be a refreshing place of honesty and happiness. You, Kev, and Rowan seem so happy, and you’re honest about the difficulties through life and parenting. Keep plugging through the downtimes with blogging. As a perfectionist, I understand how hard it is to let go. I’ve come to realize that I have to let some things go. I can’t do everything right all of the time. I’m going to try really hard, but it won’t always happen, and that’s okay. 🙂
I loved it when you said you weren’t going to do the sponsor stuff anymore. I’m going to return your honesty and say that for a little while prior to your making that announcement, I was considering not reading you anymore. But since you dropped that stuff, I enjoy reading your blog again. I’m not a mother and I don’t plan on having any kids, but I still find the parenting content just as interesting as the style, recipes, and home decor stuff. Whatever you decide to do is fine with me, perfect or not! And let me just tell you, I tried blogging for about 6 months and it was way more work than I ever imagined. And that was just me trying to come up with something I liked for myself, whether anyone read it or not (I had like 3 followers? haha)… so, I respect everything you’re able to do.
I’ve always enjoyed your blog (followed for about a year now), but honestly I am enjoying it more now. Your posts about your daughter and some the transparency about your faith have made you feel more real and approachable. My kiddo is four now and independent enough that I have a little more free time, but that is a fairly recent development. It is so encouraging to read about your devotion to you husband and daughter. They should be your first priority. Of course we enjoy reading your adventures, seeing what you wear and eat etc, but the biggest difference you will ever make in this life will be in the life of your child. Just remember that you are probably your own worst critic and most of us readers probably don’t expect perfection from you. I know I don’t. As a reader I appreciate your honesty and personality. And whatever you decide to do, I pray that you will have success and find peace. God bless you and your precious family!
Hi Jen!
Wow! First of all, I love your blog! I’ve been reading your blog for almost 2 years now, and have just become a mother myself and you are one of my most valuable blogger inspirations. Your balance between your relationship with your husband, motherhood, and all other areas are just admirable! I’m so thankful for your honesty, for the reasons that you’ve mentioned are the same reasons that I have not started a blog. I will always admire those of you who balance it all, and I’m so thankful for your openness. Whatever you decide to do with your blog, I love you, and would love to meet you someday. 😀
The thing I like most about your blog, and this post especially, is your honesty. Since having my own baby a year ago, this is the only blog that I read consistently. It doesn’t matter if your post is three words or three hundred, I feel like I can relate to what you write. On those days that I am having a hard day, your words and experiences make me feel like I am not the only one going through it. I think you need to do what is good for you and I trust that you will find that answer in your heart.
I agree with Emily. It doesn’t matter what you write. There is always something that you say that is encouraging. You do whatever is best for you & we’ll be happy for you! Although, we might miss you VERY much if you leave the blogging world behind.
I started following your blog a few years ago because I realized you were also an art teacher, but I’ve really enjoyed watching how your life changes. My best friend had her baby right around the same time you did, so I know exactly what your struggles are like from being around my new BFF (baby friend forever as she’s become).
Your blog is your own personal space on the net, do with it what you will!
Jen! I love your blog. It is an encouragement to hear your parenting ups and downs and gives great insight from another mamas perspective! Life is moving… thread on the floor and chasing a toddler is where you are at – enjoy it, I enjoy you sharring it with us all! Keep your chin up! Your great!
I post on my blog very infrequently because I don’t feel like I have the time to do a good post – and my family and friends miss out on hearing about a lot of the things I am doing. I am in China for the summer – I can’t post on my blogspot from here and I update my tumblr maybe every week. When I think about it, I get frustrated that I can’t blog more regularly or more often – so I remind myself of my mom and the other (three) people who read my blog – they want to hear my stories and see my pictures, even if I only send a good one out once a week!
Blog what you want, when you want – I look forward to reading it!
Don’t stop, I just found you!
Your blog is for you – I’m a new blogger and I’m still figuring things out, but I’ve found the things that people liked best is when I just rambled on about what I was feeling. It’s your personality that attracts people the most.
Dear Jen, unfortunately I don’t have answers but I wanted to say: I’ve been reading your blog for years and I hope to do so for many more – I love it! Your posts are always so well done and I appreciate that. For me, it doesn’t matter whether there is only one or two a week. Seeing “Jen loves Kev” marked unread in Reeder is always a happy moment. Please don’t stop blogging – there would be a large hole in my RSS-feed. 🙂
Well, after reading most of the comments, I don’t think I have much to add…You ought to feel very loved right now! 😉
I will say that I hope you keep blogging–you were the first person I really “knew” who blogged and you’ve been such a blessing to me.
I started my blog AFTER my fourth son, so I think that whole perfectionist thing wasn’t even an option :)–Maybe a blessing now that I hear you…
And I think we all struggle w/ so many of the things that you shared. I encourage you to keep sharing from your place of passion–and yes that will probably always be family and style. And if you give yourself freedom to do that–however it looks, then you’ll find more joy in it.
Bless your heart–You certainly have your priorities in order. 🙂
Aloha!!
It’s funny, I started really getting into reading fashion blogs about 6 months ago and I have the list of all the fabulous ones and I run through them maybe once a week if I’m lucky to find the time, and I always run through the others quickly, scan the well taken photos of the perfect ensembles, but I always save yours for last.
I don’t yet have kids, but you are a really good writer – with the perfect blend of fun, interesting and honest things to say. Although you feel the battle and there will be moments where the uncertainty will weigh you down and win out for a moment. You are true to yourself, true to God and true to your family and you are an amazing woman with a true heart. I have my own struggles certainly, they aren’t yet the ones of a mother, but you consistently inspire me just to know what counts and the true ups and downs of life. I want to look great, I care about fashion, but I care more about family and spending time with the ones I love and you inspire me to keep fashion where it belongs – on the side of a full life!
You will likely never entirely shake the desire to do things perfectly, but I am so very glad that you are not in a place that are able to. It makes your story much more enjoyable and i truly savor every word.
Keep it up, don’t listen to the lies that say you don’t have what it takes. You are fearfully and wonderfully made and you are the only one like you!
Jennifer
Noooo! Don’t give up!!! 🙂 I am a new follower to your blog and have recently finished enjoying all your archives a little bit at a time over my lunch breaks. In addition to loving your style, you have calmed a lot of my fears about having kids. It was so cool to read through your posts and have a real life example of “life doesn’t end, you can still travel, there are a million joys your child brings along with the sacrifices”. Things I knew but was encouraged to see played out. I hope you and your family will always take priority over your blog (as they should) but I hope that means maybe a little cutting back or shorter posts — not quitting altogether. I love your fashion and I *really* like it in the context of your uplifting, honest but positive posts. Keep going!!! 🙂
Dear Jen, I’ve read your lovely words for a few years now and continue to enjoy what you write about to this day.It doesn’t matter the topic, I still enjoy it. I have loved reading about your growing family, the changes it has brought and the way it has shaped you and hope one day I also get to go through some of these things and learn for myself. No matter what you write, i’ll be here (in Australia) reading it! Much love
I can definitely relate! At this point, your readership (at least me) follows you because we enjoy learning about the bits and pieces of your life that you choose to share. Albeit cute outfits, adorable pictures of Rowan sitting on her head, or pictures of you and Kev – we love it all! I totally understand if your posts are less frequent, life has its lulls and peaks. With everything you have going on – we appreciate any and all that you choose to share!
i am new to your blog (past few months) and it is part of my morning work routine. i love seeing the clothes, daily activities and mostly Rowan because my daughter is the same age and its nice to read about another munchkin that is very similar. I totally understand wanting to do so much but not having the time. they are into EVERYTHING and my daughter is a climber too LOL Blog at your pace and just post photos if that is all you have time for that day. we working/full time moms understand and are just happy to look or read even the tiniest of posts 🙂
Sometimes taking a break can really be good for this space and for your life at home. It’s hard to find balance, but blogging isn’t your job. It’s a place to have fun and be creative. And if that’s being stifled right now then maybe it’s a good time to take a step back. You don’t have to commit to never coming back, or to coming back after four months, but this space is your own little space on the internet and I hope you come to a point of peace in your decision. I’ve felt the same way the past four years of my own blogging experience. Some breaks and breathers have gotten me through it 😀 But do know you’d be REALLY missed.
Hi Jen,
You were my first read in this wonderfuil world of fashion blogging and you are still the first blog I click on daily. I too love seeing rowan grow and your family pics and your outfits. But you have to do what is right for you and your family. If you post pics here and there I will still glance at them, If you have a story to tell I will still read. Blogging shouldn’t become a chore to you, if you have time great, if you don’t thats okay too. i will still keep you in my “favorites” bar and check in to see if anything is new. xo
As soon as my son was born, I found it hard to keep up with posting daily too. Then a few months ago, I decided to take my blog down. It was too much and I was also stressed out to find time to create quality material worthy of posting and blogging felt like a chore more than anything else so I quit. I never claimed myself to be a “fashion” blogger but I know that I didn’t want to be a “mommy” blogger. I barely have enough time now to gander at the blogs I love which after my son was born I don’t love them as much anymore lol.
My son is now 19 months and I really enjoy when you write about Rowan because she’s just a few months older so I know what to look forward to. Good luck in making a decision about blogging. I follow you on instagram and I really enjoy your posts on there too. Just know that as a mom and a former blogger, I can totally relate to your post. 🙂
i left a comment yesterday (or thought i did…) and because it was the first one, i now came back to read the others, but mine must not have gone through.
anyway…
i love you, jen. i know that sounds weird because we’ve only met once, but. i think of you as my friend that lives a thousand miles away 🙂 and i love hearing about your life as a fashionable young mom, because that’s who i am, too. just trying to figure it all out. i can so relate to your struggles. sometimes blogging feels so meaningless. but i love it. and even if i decide to make my blog private someday, i think i will still continue to write. for me.
good luck to you as you figure it all out…i’ll still be here, waiting for you, if you decide to post 🙂
Don’t stop! Just start 1/2 assing it a little! 😀 I do it all the time. I write my blog just for fun, just because I like doing it. No one reads it really and it’s not perfect, but I enjoy a small documentation with friends! In all seriousness, I get the perfectionist thing. At the stage I’m in, if I want to do this small thing that I enjoy, it can’t be perfect or my son wouldn’t get adopted and my husband would only see the back of my head at the computer! Family first! 😀
I read this over and it’s not that encouraging, but it was meant to be! 😀
Jen I think one of the things that keeps me coming back to your blog over all these years is the honesty and reality in your blog posts. You show us what is going on in your life, with no make believe or fancy fashion posts. It’s very real. I love that your blog is part fashion, part food, part crafts, part motherhood, but always revolves around family. Maybe there is no word to describe your blog exactly, but does there need to be? You have created your own little space that you should be proud of, no matter how often you are posting! I have been a follower for a long time now and I am not at all dissapointed if you post less frequently. It’s easy to be critical of yourself but from a far you seem like an amazing person who loves life and her family and you should be so proud of that.
Please keep blogging! I for one will stick around!
erin
Hi Jen! I’m a very long-time reader who apparently only comments on these types of posts! 😉 Anyway, it made me sad to hear that you felt like you are between two types of blog groups and that you don’t really feel included by either. First, I want to say that you are now a brand. Seriously! Everyone knows who Jen from Jen Loves Kev is and we will all keeping reading you no matter what you write about! You have made true fans (sounds creepy, I know) but it just means that we read you for YOU. Second, honestly even though you were always listed initially as a fashion blogger, you always wrote about way more than that and I loved the fact that you were an art teacher and you wrote about your creative pursuits in the world (and fashion). Now you write more about your life with Rowan (another creative pursuit!) and trust me, we are all just as interested! What we love about you is your authentic voice and your truthfulness. I guess you could say that you are the true embodiment of a lifestyle blogger documenting your life (whatever that means at the time). Best! 🙂
I love your “mommy” posts way more than your “fashion” posts…just for what that’s worth :o) You’ll find your place in the blogosphere, and the readers who matter will still be there.
Hi Jen,
I have been thinking about the blogging world a lot, although I haven´t started blogging myself. But the internet is an important aspect in your daily routine so I neglected certain ways of blogging. I quitted reading so many blogs and I am very picky in choosing my daily reads, because I didn´t feel like I wanted to be influenced on my daily routine by certain vibes and perspectives. In fact you get to know just a tiny window of your favourite blogger, but honestly what happens more and more often is that you cherish exactly what certain bloggers leave out or stick to and I also felt that what´s left than is the essence of every blog. Sometimes you even recognize certain decisions of bloggers that make you go on reading or leave that developing blog behind. For example, I can´t tell you how much I respect your decision to leave that sponsoring behind. I think it is one of the best things I can imagine for your blog, not for every blog, but for yours it seemd a very good and brave development att hat point of becoming a mother. It was such a relief to watch that happening for me, because I was at a point too where I almost quitted reading any blog and then I was exploring your blog again and realized that people can transport such a beautiful vibe by just using their little window. So the most important thing of discovering your blog and sticking to your development was exactly what you have written above: “I want it to be a casual place, a place that is fun, light hearted and truthful. I want it to be more.” And this is exactly the essence of your blog, you named it. And I loved to get to know that place. It would be sad if you give up on adding that vibe to the world of blogging, but sometimes if you start to get a heavy heart it´s best to say good bye and move on. As far as I can imagine what you are like I also feel that you have much on your plate at the moment and I really appreciate the little things you still share of your private life. But probably it is not just the phase you´re going through, probably it is rather another development that could mean that your values have changed so much that you don´t cherish your blog so much anymore. I think Bloggers need to realize the essential strength of their blog and it needs to feel natural to open that little window for you.
Have a great time with your family and let us know what your decision is! XO, a*
Hi Jen,
I just wanted to let you know that JenLovesKev is the reason I stumbled into first reading blogs and now writing my own. You do not need to worry about pleasing any of your readers. You should know that we will read even if you only talk about dirty diapers. Haha.
In all seriousness though, your blog is awesome. Just let it go where it wants to go…. Oh, but keep up the Canada shoutouts. It makes me feel special! Haha.
Janelle
Honesty is what keeps people coming back – thank you for that. I’m all for blogging if it makes you happy and you like engaging with people, inspiring creativity and sharing parenting ups and downs – if that is truly what you love then do it as and when you can. No guilt, no comparison (the thief of joy, remember), no worry.
I have actually felt that similar pang of being baffled as to how to balance it all. Work, marriage, mammahood, creative outlets, church stuff etc. Life is full. I really like what you have been putting up of late – don’t get tangled in the logistics of your online identity – you know who you are. I resonate with so much of your personal content – there’s a bit more of a sense of realism than others.
Now I’m blabbering but I just wanted to (along with the other 40-odd people here) encourage you. xo
Hi Jen, I think you do a great job with your blog! Yours is one of the few websites I check every day, I love it! Please keep up the good work, I find everything really interesting. All of us love your blog, please don’t feel stressed about it, try to make it easier for yourself if you can, and just post whatever you feel like, as all of your readers seem to love it all 🙂 xx
I adore your blog! I read it every day and I am catching up on past posts as well. I have a 6 month old daughter and I really appreciate your posts about Rowan and your family–you have given me tons of inspiration for my own little one! My husband and I have also talked about various posts–especially your recent one on marriage. I understand you need to do what is best for you and your family and I hope you can find some answers for your journey.
Sending love. I love reading your personal posts. I think your baby room tour was one of my favorite posts you’ve ever done. And the ones about you and Kev… I love that stuff. 🙂 I think that a lot of people worry that their real life photos are “filler” content, but they definitely are not. In 10 years time they’re probably the posts you’ll love the most… ya know?
I’m definitely dishing advice that I can’t take, but I hope that it encourages you. I really really love your style and the family aspects of your blog. Sometimes you gotta follow your instincts. I’m finding our more and more that there is no set path when it comes to blogging, just a never ending series of personal choices.
Been following your blog for years now and it’s one of the few that has remained in my bookmarks through all the purges. Despite the fact that I’m not married and don’t have children, I really enjoy reading your posts- about life, family, and fashion. There is something very earnest and relatable about your blog, I don’t think that will ever change. As long as you keep posting, I’ll keep enjoying it! Thank you from a fan 🙂
Actually your honesty and “realness” are what keep me coming back to your blog. I’m not married yet, nor do I have kids, but I still find your blog relatable and interesting to read. Of course if you decided to stop, that’s your right, but I think a lot of people probably appreciate how non-commercial your blog is compared to so many other blogs out there. It’s quite refreshing! Naturally as your life changes your blog will change as well, but that’s part of what keeps me coming back to read on a regular basis. Please be encouraged that you ARE doing a good job with this blog!
You are my hero for stilling creating an amazing blog with a little on around!
I recently had a baby (she’s 10 weeks old now) and just having a shower and putting on something half decent in the morning is a struggle, let alone looking stylish and put together, making amazing craft projects and cooking creative meals!
I don’t blog, but I do have things I wish I had the time to do. I’m the same way, I dont want to do anything unless I can do it perfect. I would love to make things and decorate my house and cook more fancy meals. But this is not the time for that for me. It’s impossible for me to complete anything, let alone well! But before you know it you’ll have all the time you want to do a zillion projects and blog about all day long. But you kids will be in school and I’m sure you’ll wish you had this time back. So enjoy it while you can and don’t be so hard on yourself. Blogging has to evolve just like everything else and take it’s priority in life. Just because you don’t do it as often doesn’t mean you don’t love it anymore. You just have something else you love even more, your family!
That being said I think it’s important to try and find time for the things you love, the things that make you feel creative and accomplished. If I’m ever feeling a void in that area I ask Anth to take the kids outside so I can work on a project all day. I don’t get to do it all the time but it’s enough that I feel good.
(I’m trying to be encouraging but I’m so distracted, while writing this I’ve already got two refills on milk, put together a puzzle, read a spiderman book and refilled leapster tokens – so if it comes across judgy, I’m sorry I didn’t mean it that way)
i love your blog. i like the randomness because it seems to capture real life. i love the family pics. that’s why i come here. it’s a nice place to be and i hope you find happiness here again too.
I just wanted to tell you that it is perfectly okay not to blog everyday.
Take the time you need for your real life and when you have more time, we are all happy to read about it, but do not stress you!
Even if there is only one post a month or even less, that’s okay 🙂
And no worries: It’s great to read about your family, not only about fashion.
Hey Jen,
I wanted to let you know that I’ve been aware of your blog and following you for years now. You made it into my reader when your posting became family oriented, and maybe more sporadic than you’d like. I think you posted a Father’s Day post with a Driscoll book you wanted to get for Kev and I thought, “Okay, this chick is more than clothes. Add to reader.” A lot of bloggers our age are having kids and that may mean the blog ‘suffers’ if you want to call it that. I love that you won’t let Rowan suffer for your blog though.
I follow your blog for three reasons:
1. I know your priorities rest with things more important than blogging/clothes.
2. I love the clothes you do post.
3. I’m a mom as well. It gives me a voice and a reason to comment now, far more than outfits, giveaways, etc. ever did.
Stay true to yourself and if you are anxious and not at peace about something, maybe you shouldn’t be doing it. Your posting schedule is just fine by me! And your content hasn’t suffered at all. There may be less of it, but it’s aesthetically beautiful and spot on when you post – and I’d love to be a mom who got back in shape like you did! I’ve got two under 3 right now… another reason to read your blog! It’s inspiring. I’m grateful you choose to continue sharing as a mom/fashion blogger. We need more of that hybrid. I don’t look like so many of my fave fashion bloggers and never have time to do up my hair/makeup… so a mom blogger who highlights mom friendly fashion, makeup, hair, etc.? Yes please!
God Bless,
Julia
Very much respect this post. Best of luck finding your balance. And I don’t get sick of adorable family photos at all (& I’m single, childless, etc). Of course Kevin and Rowan should be your priority, and if some day that means no blog (because “no blog” would make you happier), I think you’ll find a very understanding readership, much as we’d miss you!
Just thought I’d share that I just wore a skirt I bought from you (posted on the blog)—in case you want to see its new home. 😉
Hi Jen,
I’ve been reading your blog for a few years now and I’m a first time commenter, but I just wanted to say that I think you’re being way too hard on yourself! Sure, I started reading because you have awesome style and thoughtful content, and that still holds true today. But honestly, what has kept me checking your blog every day is YOU! I’m interested in everything you post, and I enjoy the variety of topics you post about! Rowan is adorable, and if anyone stops reading because you talk about your cute cute baby, then they are crazy!
Just wanted to pass on some lurker love, and I hope that you can find some middle ground that you’re comfortable with and not worry so much!
Have a great day,
Jesslyn
I think most bloggers struggle with this notion. Blog when you can and don’t feel pressured to produce lots of content… find a balance that you’re happy with!
You’re blog is amazing! I have a son who just turned 18 months and look forward to reading it while he naps. I too am a perfectionist and have found at times that as a parent…well, I just need to get over it. No one is perfect. Enjoy your family and when you have time to blog, well, blog. If you don’t have time, no need to stress over it. When you do find the time, we will be here ready to read!! Enjoy your summer. Each is so very different with a little one. Last summer my baby boy could barely walk and this summer he is running around like crazy. Blink and Rowan will be starting school. Enjoy her and thank you for blogging.
YOUR blog is amazing! So sorry.
I just happened upon your blog. I’m having a bit of creative crisis myself and it was your wall words in string that has broken the drought. I’ve been toying with a large textural painting with the word home as the central focus but couldn’t clarify the final image in my mind. Home sweet home would be the perfect fit for what I want and I have nearly settled on the design. So on days when you feel like you’ve maybe lost your creative mojo please take heart that you may be inspiring others. Having read of your faithful band of readers I hope you feel the love. Above all be kind to yourself. If you need the break, take the break. Taking care of your daughters mother is looking after the family too.
Jen, I loved reading this post and I’ve absolutely have had my ups and downs too. I love blogging, but yes, sometimes trying to do outfit posts, manage life and work full-time have left me feeling pretty stressed and frazzled. I too am a huge perfectionist but sometimes I think that’s a symptom of being an artist/creative mind… feeling protective over what we create, and wanting it to properly represent who we are. I don’t have any specific advice, but for me I’ve really tried to not worry about wearing the perfect outfit, or getting the perfect photos (that’s what usually gets me feeling stressed out). Instead, I’ve tried focusing on having fun and doing the best that I can within the time availability that I do have. It’s felt pretty liberating!
As a long time reader of your blog and having met you in Austin (yay!) – I think you are so lovely and your blog is filled with so much creativity, sweetness and sincerity. It really comes through in all of your posts!! So keep doing what you are doing, I’m certain you’ll start to find the balance… I’m always inspired by your space Jen and it’s gals like you that keep me going! Big hugs!! V
PS – If I lived closer, I would totally come over & help you take outfit photos!! 😉
great post! you’re one of my favorite bloggers and i love reading your posts about family, little rowan and fashion, everything really! you should feel confident in the direction your blog has taken because it’s you and that’s all that really matters! love that you pull your faith into things, love the ups and downs parenting posts and your honesty with your life! 🙂 be encouraged!
I feel like a blog is a reflection of you. While you started out as one thing we are all shaped and molded into another throughout life…just as your blog. I am sure that it is extremely difficult to be a wife, mom and blogger but you seem to pull through and make me check your site more frequently then any other blogger. Your writing and photos are good. If you keep it going, myself and many others will keep reading. When faced with these types of decisions, going with your heart is always the best answer.
Good Luck to you!
A
I really love your blog, and I hope that you keep it up! It’s so lovely seeing the snapshots into your life, and even if it’s gone in a different direction than when it started, it’s still YOUR blog & you should do what you like with it! I think your honesty is very inspiring.
i just wanted you to know that your blog brings a smile to my face every time i read it. your outfits, your parenting ups and downs, and all the little pics of your sweet rowan….this is one of my favorite blogs and i hope you keep it up.
do what you like! 🙂
I am a stay at home mom to a great boy who will be 4 in september. I have been reading your blog for about 3 months and am a fan. You’re a mom now. you can’t change it or go back. Your fan base evolves with you. Those who havent gone in the same direction leave,but people like me, who look for savvy moms with little time who still have their grit and moxie, albeit frequently interrupted and splattered with spaghetti sauce, are taking their places. do not fret. I enjoy your every day, day to day.
Hi Jen,
Thank you, THANK YOU, for such a heartfelt and honest post. This is why your blog is one of my favorites. You keep it real. The good, the bad–that’s what life is all about. It’s always hard to transition into a new chapter in your life, but you’re doing an amazing job as a mother and as a wife. That is the most inspiring thing you can bring to your blog and to your readers like me. Chin up, I think you’re pretty awesome.
Evelyn
This has probably been said many times, but I love your blog. I love looking at your cute family and in the short time since I found your blog, seeing how much your daughter has grown. I dont think your blog needs to be about just fashion or just about being a mom. Why cant it be about what you want to post when you want to post it? Who cares if someone doesnt want to read certain parts. There are people out there who do. I am not a mom, but I have a full time job and a life outside of blogging. I struggle so much with finding the time to do everything I want and also cant always seem to find enough to do things the way I want them done. I am in my own sort of rut. It happens. I love your honesty. Just keep doing what you want to do.
Thanks for the inspiration.
Ashley
Hi Jen, I think its great that your blog evolves over time, after all… thats kind of life right? I also understand it would be difficult to try to put yourself in some kind of category (fashion, mom, lifestyle, etc) It seems like as you are maturing and your life is evolving, you just blog when you feel like it, and blog about what inspires you. If thats your family, then thats what you should blog about! I personally was never here just for the fashion… I enjoy your photos, your attitude and I love seeing tidbits you share about your life. 🙂 you’re a great blogger and there needs to be more of this honesty in the blogosphere!
Interesting post. So to be honest with you… I like your blog (and read it and comment), but it’s not my favorite. And I just thought about why, and I think it is because you care too much (if that makes sense). Your blog is nice, but it is missing something that makes it great. Which I think was the point of your post. And in my opinion I think it really is that you seem to apologize for/criticize yourself in your words. You have great creativity and ideas. Just be yourself and be comfortable being yourself and that will shine through.
Like all the people who have commented above, i would be verry sad of your blog stopped. I look forward to every post. You don’t have to be perfect. I look at my blog as a documentationcenter for me, my future kids, my parents who are in France. Blogg for you. Look at what you need. It doesn’t matter if you don’t blog so often. I think that Rowan might enjoy the website a lot when she becomes àteenager. Learning and seeing how much you love her and wrote about her on the blog. Xxx
I love your blog! I love that you admit that there is not time to do it all, because there isn’t time to do it all. Good for you for keeping your top priorities your husband and daughter…that is exactly where your priority should be. As far as worrying about if people are interested? I will tell you that one of the things that drew me to your blog was your photography of the ordinary stuff. It has helped me think differently about how I take pics of my kids. I have a cheap camera, but I am always inspired by your photos and it’s helped me capture some cool memories that I would not have bothered photographing before. Thanks! Hang in there.