Style File 03.04.10

So there is just something so comforting to me about wearing a sundress. They are flowy and usually made out of light weight fabric and I always feel so pretty in them. I have never owned a plain white one before because I am always around paint of some sort and well, I am just an accident waiting to happen most days. I saw this one at AE last year and I took the plunge. So far I have been able to keep it pretty clean when I wear it. I love the simplicity of it. When we were in Hawaii I wore it with a scarf around my neck. It was like my summer tunnel scarf.

Honestly, this week has been rough. I am glad we had these extra pictures from hawaii. It has freed up some time for other things. Sometimes it hard to not let this blog world get the best of you. I love all the readers (you ares are seriously the best!) and all the friends I have made but it is hard to not see it as a competition sometimes. It was my new years goal to not let that happen and I have been really good but I am not perfect and this week has been hard. I don’t know why I am sharing but I guess I need to get it off my chest. Does anyone else struggle with things like this with their blog?

* don’t get me wrong I love my blog and I love blogging. I also love taking pictures of my outfits each day. Its very inspiring and super creative which I love. I in no way wish I was more like someone else or am comparing myself to particular people. I love my life. I want to be me. I am just wondering others thoughts on the whole competition feeling of blogging.

Update: Thank you so much to people who are leaving comments. I really like that we can all talk about this. That was my intention. I was worried about writing I was feeling that way but I knew others had to be feeling it too. I just wanted us to be able to share and learn from each other. I appreciate each and every comment. The link left by MsAmanda is a good one. Keep the conversations going!

Dress: AE
Scarf: H&M
Sunglasses: Forever 21
Sandals: Sears

  1. I thought this post and the comments about blogging and jealousy from Marta Writes was good

    I don’t do fashion blogging any more because it made getting dressed for work super stressful and I feel like pictures don’t always capture the essence of the outfit or the spirit in which it is worn. If I did it again, I wouldn’t worry about re-wearing things or what other people are wearing/buying because it is just a drag and their life is not my life.

  2. You look gorgeous in the sundress! I love the crisp whiteness of it and the detailing. It fits you like a dream, too.

    The blogging world gets me down from time to time as well. I overthink things, and get worked up about it, and that really makes it not-so-fun-at-all. It can be difficult to shake those feeling. I wanted to let you know, though, that I love your style and your positivity. I hope your week picks up, or that next week’s better!

  3. I think you’re right. There are times when it can be hard to keep in mind the original reasons that I started my blog: meeting people, making friends over the internet, finding inspiration and having an outlet for creativity. Sometimes it can feel like a competition over who posts more often and what attracts the most readers. I agree with you, I love my life and the contents of my closet and just try to focus on that. I took down the followers box because I’d started to obsess over how many people were interested. I try to remind myself to enjoy blogging and not be so hard on myself.

    By the way, I love your vacation outfit. You look great in white and the addition of the strappy sandals and scarf really adds something special.

  4. This week has been pretty rough, and I can only imagine the added stress you must have since you just came back from a vacation. It always takes me a little bit of time to get back on my feet, so I def understand the back posting of pictures.

    The weekend is almost here. Sleep in and take time with Kev to chill out.

  5. Funny you mention this today, I have felt the same way this week. I just started to do the network “thing” this week by joining bloglovin’, Twitter, etc. but I’ve had a blog since August. When I see people who’ve had a similar-themed blog for the same or less time as me with a huge amount of followers, way more than me, I go into one of those spirals of jealousy and self-pity. When success can be quantified by #s of followers, hits, etc it’s so hard to not view it as a competition, even though we’re all here to share and learn from each other.

    It’s interesting (I’m hesitant to say ‘comforting’) to know that people like you who, imho, have very successful and awesome blogs still struggle with this same issue. Thanks for bringing it up; it’s an important discussion to have, I think.

  6. I totally know what you mean. Jen, I wrote about this in January and a lot of the things I was feeling then, I still feel now.
    Be you. The last thing someone needs on the internet is the same voice, the same links, the same pictures, the same subjects… A huge part of blogging is the fact that through your blog you get to express something that you feel stifled expressing in the real world. I really appreciate your honesty and sometimes its just good to step back from something and realign your focus and your intention. I am with you. 🙂

  7. Do you think you blog for yourself, or do you blog for your readers? I think when the line of personal blog is crossed you start to worry about what your readers want more then what you want and competitive feeling can arise. Does that make sense?
    When i first started blogging i was always reading other blogs and asking my readers what they would want to see more of. It was so stressful, I just had to stop reading other blogs all together and do my own thing.
    It was such a nice feeling to know that I’m 100% blogging for myself and my site was unique refection of me.
    Maybe take a week off from reading other blogs and see if you feel better?

    Although I’m still jealous of Betty’s floppy eared bunny that she had like 3 years ago…I love bunnies.

  8. You are the only fashion blog I read b/c I like your attitude and world view. You’re not stuffy or stuck on yourself, even though you post pictures of yourself every day. So props to you!

    We were just talking about this topic in a class I’ve been taking, and I think it’s a common issue. I suppose I don’t feel the pressure b/c I rarely post and don’t really generate income from my blog, although personally I would like to post more often. Also, a common consensus in my group seemed to be that we need to keep reminding ourselves of why we started blogging – I mean, if your content is what you’re passionate about, you theoretically shouldn’t care, right?

    Keep focusing on your content, making your blog better, and be ok with quitting if your heart’s not into it anymore. You don’t sound like you’re going to quit – but I think it’s important to always keep it as a viable option – out on the table as it were. =) This is YOUR art, and so many of us love it! =)

  9. First, I love the dress with the scarf. It’s such a simple, chic look.

    I often feel twinges of jealousy. It’s hard not to. I don’t have an unlimited budget, and I often remix the same pieces over and over again. One of the things that drew me to blogging was that many people were showing how to remix items and style them differently, and I thought I can do that too. Plus, I’m in a field of work that is not known for being friendly to fashion, and I thought it would be a way to connect with others who did want to set the bar a bit higher for dressing in the academy (not that I think anyone shouldn’t be free to make their own choices when it comes to personal style).

    When I do feel jealous that other bloggers have more followers or get more comments, I try to make myself stop and think how amazing it is that I have as many readers as I do. I also try to remind myself that this shouldn’t be about competition but about a community and a dialogue or a number of dialogues.

  10. I wrote about the green monster on my back in my year summary of my blog ( if you’re interested). I really hoped that by being very candid and open about the situation that it would get better. Not so much. I’m really, really working on it. It’s frustrating because I’d like to think of myself as a nice person and then the blogging thing came along and I’m a bitch? I work hard to remind myself that I started this blog to write and dress-up and that’s accomplished.
    I like to read your blog as a positive place for food ideas and fashion inspiration. I may not always comment but I’m always up-to-date on your posts, like a creepy lurker….haha

  11. Success is not measured in the number of readers you have, or the amount of money you make. It’s just not. It’s hard to get past, but it’s true. Consider yourself successful if you enjoy what you do.

  12. That is a super cute outfit! I know what you mean about blogging. I’ve just started doing outfit posts, and I can’t help but feel like it is a bit of a competition sometimes. I end up feeling bad when I don’t get a lot of comments, and wondering if I don’t have a lot of followers because my outfits are bad. I’m glad most of the time it’s fun though.

  13. I just started doing a personal style blog myself – but I have another blog which I have had a for a few years that’s popular enough. I do get a wee bit jealous sometimes – we are all human – but I really just try not to focus on it and move on from there (but it definitely happens). It’s one reason I don’t check stats on that blog much anymore (once it reached a certain point). I do my style blog just for me honestly, and I can see how the feelings would be so much more amplified with this type of blog because everything is so visual. Not to mention the $ that go into getting clothes regularly etc.

  14. first, want to say thanks to MsAmanda for posting that link to the MartaWrites post – so spot on AND I was laughing out loud at some of it!

    second – your husband hit the nail on the head: consider yourself successful if you enjoy what you do. SO TRUE.

    btw – i got my little sis to read your blog, she’s more into fashion than I am. we live an ocean apart, but we often email/talk about one of your posts/outfits, and it makes me feel like she and have another little thing in common. we’re pretty different, so every little thing makes me feel closer to her. hee – i wonder if she sees this.. =P but i love her! and Jen, thanks for putting yourself out there!

  15. Blogging can really get me down sometimes! It’s so easy to make it into a popularity contest and compare myself to all the other fashion blogs out there. Why are they doing so well, what am I doing wrong, I have nothing to wear because I have to post it on the internet! I’m trying to find a balance, some days are better than others 🙂 Your blog is one of my faves, I love seeing your style and down to earth writing! 🙂

  16. Ok, So first off- I just have to say THANK YOU to everyone posting comments! I was really unsure of writing that today but I felt like I know other sfeel like this- it comes with putting yourself out there daily. I just thought if we could all talk about it maybe we could help each other out!!

    You guys are the best!!

    I love reading everyones comments!

  17. I struggle with this on a daily basis. I have very little followers, I guess because I don’t do outfit shots or have amazing hair. I know how you feel, but I think it is best to just stick to it and be yourself. Your blog is super popular, you are even in a magazine!
    I can’t even tell you the hate on I got for you when I saw you in lucky. In the end your blog is lovely and I hope you keep doing it for you and keep being you. Or else I’m going to stop reading it, then bitch about it to my 4 followers…j.k.

  18. Oh man, I am always plagued by my lack of readership. That sounds odd because I have loyal readers, new people stop by all of the time, people like what I post, but I always feel this pressure to get even more. That’s because there are some blogs that have only been around for 3 months and have 80 followers and 40 comments daily at least and I don’t know what the hell they’re doing better than I am. do they network more (I am working on that, but it is stressful as ever)? Do they have better content? And it is funny, you can never peg content. What works for one blogger doesn’t work another, people read very randomly it seems. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve read posts on bloggers who are going to stop trying to cater to readers and write what they want, which shows that clearly we are all a little pressured by this blogosphere to post what we think people want.

  19. First off, I love the scarf. I need more scarves like that, all I have is winter/wool scarves, and I need to find some lighter ones.

    While I don’t have a fashion blog (mine is food focused, although I do mix in a lot of personal life stuff), I do know where you are coming from. There are times when I wish I had more followers, but then when I think where I started and where I am now, it amazes me that people read my blog at all. I started my blog as a hobby and outlet for all the energy/pent up creativity I had one summer, and now I have people who read it regularly and comment, and it also pushes me to try new dishes in the kitchen, as I can’t post the same things over and over!

    Your blog and your thriftiness has totally inspired me to try and work harder at what I wear, although I don’t mix it up nearly as much, I do have a lot of the same outfits I wear, and sometimes I am just boring and wear the same things I’ve been wearing for years. But you gave me the thrifting bug, although I haven’t had as much time to go thrifting as I would like!

    What I’m trying to say is, just be yourself, who cares what everyone else does, we ALL get the grass is greener syndrome, but you have to just be true to you, and you obviously have a ton of readers who support you, based on ALL the comments you have!

  20. Hi Jen, I wanted to thank you for posting this today. I always thought of you as a successful blogger (you’re blog is one of my faves) and was convinced that you hadn’t this kind of problems. But thanks, that should remind all of us that bloggers are humans!
    I started my own crafty blog a week ago after reflecting on these issues for more than a year… I thought that nobody neeeded another blog to read or that I could get very disappointed if my blog wasn’t read at all… In the end, I took a deep breath and did it… and I am enjoying it a lot. It keeps me creative and makes me want to improve and share in my projects. Somedays I think my blog will never be successful but I try to remember that I do it for myself. And I’m pretty sure you do the same!

  21. I have no comments about the other comments and your needs to blog…

    I just want to say I LOVE THIS OUTFIT!!!

    I want this outfit.

    I can’t wait for warmer weather and trips to the beach.

  22. It’s so nice to hear somebody else say this. I originally started my blog mostly to help me be more creative with my wardrobe and serve as somewhat of an experiment in personal brand promotion since I’m an advertising student. However, sometimes when I’m looking at people who have started blogging around the same time as me it’s hard not to look at how many followers, comments, etc. they have and get competitive. There’s also a feeling of insecurity in looking at others who are uber stylish that makes me wonder “what made me think I could even do this?” That’s when I have to take a deep breath and remember I’m doing this for me and not for anyone else.

    But anyways, I think you’re awesome and shouldn’t let this whole blogging thing get the best of you. Cause you would totally be missed if you went awol.

  23. I definitely suffer from blog envy… I think the great thing about discovering fashion/style blogs is it has challenged me to really care about my wardrobe and be more creative and not look at my closet and wish that I had someone else’s stuff… I hope that makes sense. I work very much like you in my blog- something different everyday, and I just do an outfit round-up once a week. Just writing keeps me more creative, and as a dance-artist/choreographer/performer that is imperative!

    You are definitely an inspiration for me as a blogger! I’m hoping to slowly move toward a larger audience and a more polished blog “look” but I realize I’ve only been doing this for a year (barely… and only consistently for 2 months!) and for where I’m at right now, I think I’m doing ok. But yeah, I get intimidated by others’ (including yours! and I mean that as a compliment!) success

    Whenever I get caught up in competition I get frustrated (which is the opposite of creativity) and I don’t really accomplish anything. So I try to just concentrate on continuing to work. It’s very “Finding Nemo”- “just keep swimming, just keep swimming”… if I just keep working I’ll eventually get to where I want to be. If I stop working because I’m frustrated because of someone else’s success then I’m not moving forward, and I’m not going to get what I want anyway!

    so yes, I know where you’re coming from, but it’s also encouraging to know that even people like you (whom I consider a very successful blogger) have trouble with the blogging competition.

    I’m sure you’ve seen it, but Christina at Second Skin wrote about that this week… very thoughtful post.

  24. I definitely think this happens to everyone! Lately I’ve been rereading old posts and I noticed how much more relaxed and personable my blog was before I started taking regular outfit photos and branching out in the fashion blog community. Alas, my life goals have nothing to do with fashion, so I really should take a step back and let this blog exist as it started out – a way for me to jot down my thoughts and make meaningful connections with others.

  25. I feel the same way about my blog sometimes. usually I just don’t think about followers or success or anything like that, I just enjoy writing and posting my pictures and seeing what other people wear. but other times… I just wonder why it’s not as “successful” as other blogs that I know popped up around the same time. and I can’t think of things to change or improve, so it’s kind of bewildering. and sometimes frustrating.
    and I feel like I’m not connecting to other girls the same way some bloggers have. the only real goal I have for my blog was to make friends, and it seems just as hard as it is in real life, haha.
    but I know that in the end, I’m doing it for me and for fun. so I have to push all that semi-jealousy aside!
    but I totally understand how you feel. and I LOVE your blog, I’m really glad you continue to post in it. :o)

  26. Jen, I read your blog all the time and I’m absolutely in love with your style. From reading your blog, as well as a few others, I wanted to start my own personal style blog but for the reasons you’ve talked about above, I haven’t started. I keep telling myself, what if no one reads it and it’s a big waste of time or what if no one even likes my style or what I have to say or what if I can’t come up with enough outfits and end up wearing the same things too often. But after seeing that a blogger as successful as yourself, as well as all of the bloggers who’ve left comments can feel the same way, it makes me feel like maybe it is worth it and that I should get out there and start a blog, even if only 2 people read it. If I love my style and want a creative outlet I should go for it and try not to focus so much on what other people might think. Thanks so much for posting this, you may have just given me the push I needed to rethink starting a blog and possibly in the near future give it a shot.

  27. Jen, it’s really refreshing to read about your feelings. I just started blogging a few months ago and I feel really stressed out or insecure sometimes with that great blogger’s existential question: “Is anyone actually READING what I’m writing?” Which is of course tied to my worry about number of followers. But when mondo popular bloggers such as yourself express a similar insecurity, I feel a little better knowing that the feeling is universal. Thanks for sharing!

  28. I intend this comment to be helpful and I dont want everyone to think i am above all of the competitiveness, but it’s hard to think of it as a competition when there are so many bloggers out there, with style blogs, and they all have different styles. I love being able to see all of the different outfits that people come up with and blogging is all about community and dialogue. How can that exist without all of the different people who do it? Sometimes I do envy people’s style, but that only makes me want to try it too. Style and fashion come from inspiration. And there are many inspiring style bloggers out there, including you!

  29. Love the colors in the scarf and it really pops against the white dress! The location is absolutely beautiful!


  30. I love this dress. I want a white dress so bad but I was also scared I would just get things on it. I also love the pop of color in the scarf. it’s so unexpected but totally works!
    I feel that too. I don’t post my outfits but sometimes I wonder if I’m not good enough to blog when I see other peoples blogs. But we have to remind ourselves that if we were all the same then it would be boring. SO let’s celebrate our differences!

  31. Jen, let me tell you why I follow you, because I think you need to hear it.
    I follow you because your voice is real and down to earth. I look at so many other fashion blogs of girls looking utterly amazing. I wonder if these girls are real people. I mean they are so creative, live in amazing artistic spaces. Then I look at what I’m doing on my own blog & sometimes I feel lack-luster. But then I remember some advice that Anna posted (from Door Sixteen) about being yourself on your blog. Take your own pictures, don’t always rely on product photos. I think that’s so true! There are so many blogs that just re-post cool things out there & never really provide original content. Your blog is 100% you & original. I respect that, because I know it can be exhausting. Wow…that was a long comment (sorry!)

  32. You hit this right on the nose. I love reading blogs and they do inspire me but sometimes they pull me down. I read photography & fashion & lifestyle and some days all I think is “my photos will never be that good, I’m not the stylish, my life isn’t that amazing.” It can ruin a day. :/.I’m thinking of taking commenter Punky’s advice and cutting out reading blogs for awhile. I don’t know. But you’re not alone on this, thanks for writing this Jen.

    Sarah Yvonne

  33. I don’t really ever feel like that because I am so behind you and the other lovely fashion bloggers I follow. However, I can see how that can certainly happen.

    I do love me a good white sundress though. AND btw, I made the tortilla soup you wrote about the other day for the new boy I am dating and he LOVED it and was super impressed 🙂 if we get married, you are so invited.

    xo d

  34. oh, and I also love, love, love this dress!

    So clean, soft and feminine.

  35. Oh, I feel the same way. Although, sometimes I wonder if there is something wrong with me as a blogger or as a writer. I enjoy blogging and I wanted it as a format to be an inspiration to others, but now that I haven’t really uped my readership to where I had hoped it to be, I wonder if I should even continue sometimes. I’ll keep up with what I’m doing, but it’s just hard sometimes to wish I could be a little more popular amongst the bloggers. I love doing it for the creative outlet though. I guess we all get into the blogging thing so we can reach out to people and involve ourselves with as many people as possible.

  36. I’m not a style blogger but I really enjoy reading them… some of them at least. I think the blogs that each of us connect with has an intangible aspect that can’t be predicted. I like your blog in large part because you seem like a friendly, positive, well rounded person. I like that you are an artist. I like that you cook and eat well. I find the aspect of balancing your teacher status with being trend focused interesting. You seem to post your outfit photos because you are having fun with style not because you are fishing for compliments and friends. So keep having fun with it and the friends and compliments will follow!

  37. 100% agree with Kev’s comment!

  38. I can definitely relate to the feeling you’re talking about. I go through times when instead of feeling inspired by other blogs, I just feel jealous because so many people seem so perfect. But it doesn’t matter if you have 1,000 page hits a day or if it’s just your best friend reading your blog, at the end of the day, it’s your blog, and you have to do what you love. I love the link that the first commenter posted!

  39. Hi Jen,

    You know I was just thinking about this. I love the community aspect of blogging but I miss the days where I posted on whatever I wanted instead of what has mass appeal, I also freak out if I don’t post 5 days per week. Like the world is going to turn against me! It’s crazy and kind of a mental roller coaster, I don’t enjoy it as much as I used to but I have more readers. I am trying to look at the positive that I have made a lot of friends and have pushed my own style to be better.

  40. I have a HUGE love/hate relationship with blogging! I love how creative it let’s me be and I love all the wonderful people I get to meet and talk to through it; but I hate how sometimes it can make me feel not as confident in myself as I use to be. I was never one to put myself out there and the first time I do it, I choice to put myself out to the whole word. It takes alot of getting use to! I need to just learn to relax and believe I bring my own little special something to the blogging word.

    I wanted to let you know though that I always love coming to your blog and seeing your gorgeous photos and amazing outfits! You give me alot inspiration. Thank you! 🙂

  41. I totally understand what you mean. I don’t blog about fashion, clothes or design mostly because I think I would just get down on myself for not being “hip.” My life is pretty busy and I love things just how they are but I notice that the more I see what other people are doing the more I feel like I’m not doing enough. People are super talented and super creative and certain things come easier to others, but it’s hard to not feel competitive. I think that personal competition is great, challenging yourself to be better, but mixing in others’ accomplishments or talents in there can really mess with your head. At least that’s what I find for myself. The other thing about the blog world that gets me down is there seem to be cliques and I think that’s silly. Way too high school for me. So…I just try to say hi and comment on the blogs I enjoy, hope that people find something interesting on my blog and leave it at that. (If that makes sense.)

    PS: Your blog is great, great, great! And I really like stopping by every day. Even if I don’t always leave a comment, I do always read. 🙂

  42. ahhh i am so jealous you were in weather warm enough to wear this! ohhhhh how i long for sundresses!

    i haven’t had a chance to read through comments yet and while i really wish i had something profound to contribute… i just don’t really feel the competition thing very much. i suppose because right now it’s just an outlet/whenever-i-have-a-chance thing. haven’t really been doing it long enough to get too wrapped up in the politics of it but i can see how when you get more time to put in each day that it would be a little consuming. the mere outfit photos can be consuming even though mine only take 3-5 minutes of my day (if that). looking forward to getting a chance to sit down and read some comments.

  43. I truly feel the exact same way about sundresses. They way they swish about your legs is just so ethereal, enchanting, and whimsical. It always makes me feel like a siren or a fairytale princess!!

    I think that blogging is meant to be fun. Too many people get caught up in wanting to have the biggest audience, which turns it into a competition and makes blogging, in general, lackluster. Be happy with you turn out – even if you’re the only one reading it!! 🙂

  44. I think it’s understandable to have blog envy sometimes..I know I do. But I have to remember that the reason why I started my blog was so that I could document my life FOR ME! I’m my most important reader. You can’t focus on what other people are doing. I do love your blog though. It was one of the first fashion blogs I still read and while others I’ve dropped I’ve always kept yours because I love reading about you and Kev, your dinner, and of course your outfit posts. You are a very real person and that’s why I like you! Keep up all your amazing work! xox

  45. Ack! I need to come back and read all of the comments! I’m actually pretty relieved hearing that other people feel this way. And it’s a comfort to know that even longtime popular bloggers like you, struggle with this. Not that it’s a good thing, but at least I feel more normal? If that makes any sense.

    Anyway. I do LOVE this outfit immensely. I just bought a white dress and i never thought about scarfing it up. It looks gorgeous!

  46. I totally understand how you feel because it affects me too, the whole ‘numbers game’ with blogging. I find what helps me is to take a break from blogging for a week or so and to refocus on what I love about dressing up and fashion without the pressure of photographing a perfect blog picture or keeping up with the daily posts. I also find it refreshing and liberating to not care about what I wear some days and just enjoy my hobbies or spend time with loved ones 🙂 I hope this helps you. Remember that you’re not the only one going through this, and you’re amazing the way you are.

  47. I’m really relieved to hear that I’m not alone in having these kind of thoughts about blogging. I’m pretty new to the area and I started it because I wanted to be inspired and let my personal style evolve – something it truly has with this project. Clothes is one of my true passions (the last thing I think about when I go to sleep, the first thing I think about when I wake up) and blogging has made me way more creative when it comes to style.

    I love Kevins comment “Consider yourself successful if you enjoy what you do.” It made me think of something I heard when I was at Carola Camp this past summer (a weekend crash course in performance with Swedish biggest female artist Carola) – that you have to decide what is success for you – because if you don’t know what your intentions are or what you’re trying to achieve you will ultimately let others decided that for you – it will become about pleasing others and let them measure your success.

    So when I feel like I don’t have many followers or people who comment on my posts I try to remember that this isn’t a popularity contest – or at least I didn’t join in for that kind of competition. I wanted to be a part of a community of creativity and amazing women. And no matter how many people who read my blog, I think I am.

    I try to remind myself of this when I feel like my blog is just floating around on its own, isolated, in the world wide web. I get something out of it – and that has to be just fine.

  48. Jen, this post could not have come at a better time for me. I was just thinking about this last night. I have an incredibly long list of blogs I read on a daily basis and ditto what everyone else is saying about feeling like your numbers qualify you as a blogger. If a blogger posts but no one reads her blog, is that blog just an on-line journal? I have pretty few followers to my blog and I have a small celebration every time I add a new one but lately I’ve started looking at my blog as more of a personal style diary that will always be there even if my computer gets wiped out and I lose all of my photos.
    At times I feel… i dont know what the word is… weird about linking my blog address at the end of every comment I leave on other blogs, like “am I just commenting so that other readers will see my blog and visit it?” and I hate that feeling. I also hate considering joining every friggin community wardrobe site (flickr, chictopia, weardrobe…) out there because who has time to keep up with them all? I have a weardrobe account but by the time I’ve updated my own blog I don’t even feel like going over it all again on another site. And I was plagued for a while about the fact that I haven’t been featured on the main page, to the point that I was going to write to Krystal or Suzanne and ask specifically HOW to get featured. But then I realized that I don’t dress for the people I see in the stores or around town, I don’t dress for my family or peers, I dress for me. So why should I be so concerned with the rest of the weardrobe community seeing my style and thinking it’s fab? As long as I feel fabulous walking out my front door, that’s enough for me.
    It’s hard not to feel like this is a popularity contest. And to not feel inadequate or uninteresting. But your blog is awesome, you are interesting and you’re one of the Delightful Dozen! That’s pretty much like being one of the popular girls of the blogging world in my opinion.

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Hi, I'm Jen!

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Jen Loves Kev