Before I became a mom I was sure I would love the infant stage the best. I never understood how parents could say they weren’t “infant stage” people. What’s not to love I thought? They sleep and cuddle most of the time, right? As a parent, I have loved every stage with Rowan but I can honestly saw now… I am not an infant person. It was not my favorite. I wonder what it will be like with the second though? I think I was somewhat tainted by that overwhelming feeling of “holy crap!” by being a new mom with Rowan. It was hard to be in the moment back then. We had no close friends with babies and I was alone most of the time with Rowan while Kev was at work. Anyway, I have said this with every stage but man, oh man 2 is the best age. (I am a little afraid of what 3 will bring. I have heard horror stories. Ha!)
It is also the age that makes me want to cry, pull my hair out, and scream in frustration some days but at the same time I want to freeze time. I want her to be this age forever. I feel like she is 2 going on 13. She talks so dang much. She understands and can do way more than I give her credit for. She has the funniest sense of humor and is just so loving, out going and brave I can’t even stand it. Rowan is 1 in a million. Yes. Yes. I know I am her Mom and of course I would say that but it really is true.
I have really gotten to love our little daily routine for 2 years old. We spend lots of time with close friends at parks, playgroups and gymnastics. This has been such a huge blessing to me. A void I think I was missing for 2 years. Having friends with kids that are going through similar things is such a huge encouragement. Parenting can feel very lonely sometimes if you let it. Seeing Rowan make best friends warms my heart.
I am a very proud Mom and I am super proud of Kev and I. We have made many mistakes for sure but I think sometimes we can be too hard on ourselves as parents. We should pat our selves on the back every once in a while. It’s no joke raising kids. It is by far the hardest job there is and I think we all need a big jump high five most days for making it through.
I have been thinking a lot lately about motherhood and the kind of Mom I want to be and continue to be. It is crazy to think that I will be a Mom of 2 in just 11 weeks. Here are a few things that have been on my heart lately…
1. I want to be spontaneous and easy going with enough structure that will give them the security they need.
2. I want to be able to instill in them a passion for life.
3. i want to teach them to have good manners and be polite.
4. I want to play outside with them a lot.
5. I want them to hear more music than tv.
6. I don’t want them to remember me on my phone/computer all the time.
7. I want to pick up and go places with them on a whim.
8. I don’t always want to worry about schedules or making messes.
9. I want our house to be filled with laughter and love.
10. I want to create situations where they can use their imaginations as much as possible.
11. I want to lead by example. I want to be a good role model for them.
12. I want them to know there is no limit to what they can accomplish.
13. I want them to know God’s love for them.
14. I want them to teach them to be kind to others and have a generous heart.
15. I want our family to always be adventurous and value the importance of seeing new things.
16. I want to teach them to value and respect each other as siblings and us as parents.
17. I want them to know they can dream big and we will be there no matter what to support them.
I could go on and on…
What things are important to you to teach your kids?
What has been your favorite age?